Stopping Peer Bullying in Children

Take Bullying Seriously

Make sure your child understands that you will not tolerate bullying at home or anywhere else. Establish clear rules about bullying and stick to them. If you restrict privileges as a consequence, make sure it is meaningful. For example, if your child uses text messages or social media to bully others, temporarily suspend their phone and computer privileges. If your child acts aggressively toward siblings or others at home, stop it immediately. Teach them more appropriate, non-violent ways to react, such as walking away.

Teach Respect and Kindness

Teach children to treat others with respect and kindness. Help your child understand that putting others down is wrong, and instill the value of empathy for those who are different. Consider joining social groups or activities where your child can interact with a diverse group of peers.

Encourage Good Behavior

Positive reinforcement can be a much more powerful tool than negative punishment. Try to "catch" your children being good—recognize and praise them when they handle situations in a positive or constructive way.

Be a Good Role Model

Be mindful of how you speak and how you resolve conflicts when your children are around. If you behave aggressively, they are highly likely to follow your example. Instead, highlight the positive qualities in others. When conflicts arise in your own life, model healthy ways to handle frustration. While stopping bullying can be challenging, remember that hurtful behaviors rarely disappear on their own. Reach out to teachers, counselors, and school staff to work together in supporting your child.