Anger in Children: How to Manage Your Child's Tantrums

Avoid Giving in to Demands

Avoid giving in to what they want. If your child gets what they want as a result of a tantrum, they will quickly learn that this is an acceptable and effective method and will continue to use it. If your answer was 'no' before the tantrum, stick to that answer.

Hug Them

When children are angry and experiencing a tantrum, they cannot control themselves. By giving them a warm, tight hug, you can make them feel safe and accepted no matter what. Tell them you will hold them like this until they calm down.

Observe

Observe when and under what circumstances your child's tantrums occur. Is it when they are tired?

Name Their Anger

If you notice what is making your child angry at that moment, name the anger and the situation for them. Suggest alternative ways for them to express themselves (such as hitting a pillow, drawing, writing, or tearing paper), but make sure to do this when they are not in the middle of an active tantrum.

Ignore the Behavior

While ignoring your child during a tantrum can be very difficult as a parent, they might be trying to get your attention through negative behavior. If you give them your attention during these moments, your child will continue to seek attention using negative behaviors. Spend high-quality time with your child as often as possible. Highlight and praise their positive traits.

Change the Subject or the Environment

Instead of giving in to your child's request, talk about a topic that might catch their interest. Since young children have short attention spans, you can distract them with an interesting topic or environment, redirecting their focus in a positive way.

Consistency is Key

Coping with children's tantrums can be challenging. When your child encounters your new responses, the intensity of their tantrums may temporarily increase. However, if you remain consistent in your boundaries over time, you can bring these outbursts under control. Learning how to manage tantrums and applying these strategies takes time and practice. If you feel the need, do not hesitate to consult a professional for support.